The Benefits Of Contrasts

Abraham Hicks often asks, "Are you appreciating the contrasts in your
experience?" And usually everyone laughs, as if it were impossible to do so.

Last week I had an experience that took a few days to digest, but lead me to fully appreciate contrasts.

I became entangled in an argument with my sister about an inheritance....I had almost forgotten how she attacks when I don't agree with her, so I was shocked by the conversation. Several days passed before I felt I had recovered from the stress of the incident.

But yesterday, I not only recovered; I was thanking her and I will
thank her for the rest of my life for the experience.

I came to the realization that I had allowed my fear to dominate our conversations about the situation. Being afraid that she would attack me verbally over my opinions about the issue, I had automatically agreed with her from the beginning in order to avoid creating havoc.

Unconscious of my own motives, I had been seconding her point of view just
for the sake of keeping peace between us.

I do love peace. I live in peace, creating a world of peace around me. I was ready to do anything in order to maintain tranquility in the relationship.

As I had not engaged in such aggressive conversation for some years, I felt shocked and disappointed over the exchange of such emotionally charged words.

As I was trying to find a way to feel at peace with what had happened, it dawned on me that there was a pattern of communication in my family that worked its way continually into all of our relationships. Both my parents and my sister attacked when I did not agree with their point of view, so I usually forgot my truth and retreated from my own position, agreeing with them simply to recover peace in the family.

But this time I realized that it was disastrous to allow my sister's opinion to dictate the action. It was a financial issue and I had totally forgotten my own interests in the story--just to satisfy her and avoid further attacks.

As I realized that I had settled into that pattern of accepting everything she wanted just to shorten the suffering, I moved up the scale from fear to anger.

Anger is not about being violent; it allows you to regain your own power and enables you to choose and decide according to your own best interest.

As I recognized that pattern, I got into the anger and decided that:
I will simply focus on my interests and stand for what I need.

Abraham talks about "not caring what others think" and this is exactly what I am going to do from now on. It is acceptable to me if she is angry; I realize she is doing her best to navigate her own ladder.

And when I view the big picture, this conversation came at exactly the right time to encourage me to wake up and think for myself.

It was perfect timing. It couldn't have been better.

Thanks to that decision I will be a step closer--much closer--to financial freedom. Source was calling me toward my creation, and I was missing it!

It was the money I needed to make the investments I wanted to make...
I had been so hypnotized into keeping the peace that I had not seen the gift coming my way and the significance of it.

I am so grateful, and I will be appreciative for the rest of my life that my sister decided to launch an attack that day...It rescued me from fear and led me to anger, and then back into my own power!

My heart is full of gratitude.

Thanks, Universe!

You never know the direction from which your creation might come; look for the gold hidden in the contrasts of your experience.